Sunday, 15 November 2009

Meet Yuuri

Disney and Approval for marriage

Last weekend (2nd November 09) I went to Tokyo with Yuuri to visit Disney Sea. Disney in Japan is a lot like Disney in America. A lot of hype and a lot of waiting around.

I'm a bit cynical when it comes to Disney. I hate how all the advertisements show Disney as this magical place and usually depict a young family freely enjoying the park, and it looks like a dream. However they don't show the hoards of people clambering to get a look at plastic mountain or the never ending wait for a 2 minute ride.

Having said that Yuuri really enjoys Disney and it is a good day out. The rides are pretty good and I really liked the Tower of Terror. Yuuri always gets very scared when she goes on rides, her palms become sweaty and she becomes noticeably more nervous. She loves it though!

We were in the park for about 10hrs and we were so tired afterwards. Our hotel was nice but our key didn't work so our room got upgraded.

Please enjoy our pics of Disney

Disney

The main reason we came to Tokyo was to visit the British embassy to get our marriage ready for approval. When Americans do this I heard they must take blood tests but at the British embassy I only had to fill in a form and pay some money, Yuuri didn't have to be there. The form cost £63/Y9,700 and I have to wait until the 24th November 09 for approval.

My information goes on a public notice board for anyone to object against. We had a look at some of the current ones and we were among the youngest but there were some couples younger than us. Most seemed to be British men to Japanese women though.

A lot of people tell me western men often prefer Japanese women and that Japanese women like western men. I'm not so sure that's completely true as a man and knowing other men I'd say men like Italian women, French women, South American women, Asian women in fact I'd say men just like women and if something sounds unattainable and exotic then all the more appeal.

As for Japanese women preferring western men well I think that's just from exposure. If your only exposure to westerners is Hugh Grant, George Clooney, Brad Pitt etc then you're going to find them more appealing. I don't know any Japanese girls who fancy Gordon Brown.

From Embassy


From Embassy

Monday, 28 September 2009

Halong Bay

During my stay in Vietnam I booked a two day cruise along the beautiful Halong bay.

From Halong Cruise day one


Halong is about 3hrs drive from Hanoi but when we got there we were greeted with lovely looking vessel. We had a couple of New Zealanders on board and the rest were Europeans. I haven't spoken to many Europeans in a long time so that was refreshing in itself. There were only 5 of us too so it was peaceful.

We got our food served, which consisted on mainly seafood but I was used to this. We had plenty to eat and it was all very nicely presented. The boat had lots of areas to take pictures and sit and relax as well as stay out the sun which was very hot out there.

From Halong Cruise day one


My cabin was nice and big enough for two with air conditioning and a fan.



We set sail through the many rocks in Halong and stopped in a bay.

From Halong Cruise day one


Here we could climb the cliff and go inside the cave.



After we got back to the boat we set sail through the bay once again.



It was so quiet and peaceful you could just relax and enjoy it. We arrived at a floating village and got into some Kayaks and headed to a beach where we could swim and enjoy the warm water. I got talking to some Koreans and played games in the water with them.

We set sail in the kayaks and rowed into the middle of one of the mountains. The water was still and the mountains were huge and quiet. You could hear the water lapping and a few birds chattering.

We got back to the boat just as the sun was setting for some food and drinks.

The next day we sailed back to the port for our three hour drive back to Hanoi.

From Cruise day two

6 planes 7 days

I landed in Haneda from Aomori, from Haneda I got the bus to Narita airport, from there I flew to Seoul in Korea and finally got to my destination Hanoi in Vietnam.

It wasn't over though.

I was warned about the taxi drivers in Vietnam so I was being careful. I found a taxi and all was going well until his engine broke on the motorway and we had to get out and wait for another taxi. After about 10mins a second driver came and I continued my journey.

In Vietnam they use the dong currency but it is only available inside Vietnam, otherwise they accept American dollars as a universal currency. I only had dollars since I had just got off the plane but this didn't make the taxi driver happy and he insisted I go to his friends place to convert my money. I placed down a ten dollar note and said that's all I'll pay but he wanted more. I was tired and getting agitated so I walked out and sat back in the car an waited for the driver.

After a few minutes he came back and eventually was persuaded to take my ten dollars. We had driven a long way by now and he was still going on about wanting more money so I just got out and walked furiously to the hotel.



The hotel was very nice for just $10 a night. It was hoovered, it had an air-conditioner and hot water. It was a little bit noisy due to the excessive traffic in hanoi but I usually sleep like a log anyway so it was no bother to me.

On my first day it rained in torrents but it was surprisingly warm outside so I decided to venture out and see the lake. Soon as I stepped out I was in a world of non stop traffic, smog and people pestering me to buy various t-shirts and fruits.

Crossing the road in Hanoi is a skill in its own. The roads are a sea of scooters and motorbikes which look more my schools of fish, parting when you step into the middle. Hanoi has no road rules and the best way to cross is to just keep an eye on the traffic and walk straight to your destination.

I found a video on You Tube that demonstrates this.



I was in the Old Quarter and it's a warren of shops and cafes, some very nice western style ones and some very basic ones where you would sit on a Fisher Price plastic chair. Naturally the prices would go up and a beer could cost anywhere from 50p to £2.

Many places had wifi so I could keep in touch with my friends and family back in England and Japan. My iphone was very handy in Hanoi I used it for currency conversion, compass and maps. Without it I couldn't have navigated myself through the streets of Hanoi.

From Han oi Day 1


Here you can see the city on my first day.



The people in Vietnam weren't as polite and humble as the Japanese. They seemed very aggressive and direct in their speech. Often they would shout single words at you and repeat it over and over like "pay pay" or "motorcycle" to offer you a lift. Their face seemed stony and unemotional, on the plane they seemed to show a disregard to other passengers and any rules on the flight.

I do feel they are very kind people and the hotel staff helped me a lot and even people in the street helped me. They are very poor, the poorest people I have seen and maybe its hard to see rules when life is so hard.



Han oi Day 1


The next day I went to Halong bay but I'll go onto that in my next post. When I returned from Halong I went for some drinks in Hanoi.

Due to the communist ideology in Vietnam there is a drinking curfew and at 12am either you stay in the bar or you go home cause everywhere closes. I left at midnight and caught a taxi to get home. During my taxi ride he tells me he can get me 'girls', which is very common for taxi drivers to say, I told him I wasn't interested and I thought that was the end of it.

As we approached my street he stopped and I paid him 500,000 dong expecting 400,000 dong change. He doesn't see it this way and decides to take me to see these 'girls' after I persuade him I'm not interested again he pops open the glove compartment and shows me his marijuana and opium asking me to buy them.

We keep driving round arguing, he moves onto selling me opium when all I want is my 400,000dong which is only about £15 $20 Y2000 but it was mine. We stopped at some traffic lights on the main road and saw my chance and held the handbrake and pulled the keys from the ignition.

It took another 15mins before he would swap his keys for the cash but he did. I got out and threw his keys through the window. I was glad to get back to my hotel even though I had a long walk.

In the morning I walked round the parks and the museums rather than the city. You could see memorabilia from the war. They also have lots of political monuments including Lenin's statue and the mausoleum of Ho Chi Minh.

Han Oi Day 2


Monday, 6 April 2009

Mothers day in Aomori

22nd March 2009 was Mothers day in England so Yuuri and I had decided to take my parents out. We sent them a brochure of Aomori previously and my parents were interested in visiting the southern city of Aomori prefecture called Hachinohe.

(Japan is split into "prefectures" which are similar to American states in the sense they are huge areas of Japan that were once parts of different kingdoms. I live in Aomori prefecture and the capital city is Aomori city which is in in the northern bay)

We took the express train down to Hachinohe city and went around the fish market.

From Dads Pictures


And my mum bought some fresh fish which we intended to cook and eat in the fish market but it was too crowded. So we decided to try one of the restaraunts where dad and I had ramen.

From Mothers day 2009


Ramen is kind of noodles in a fish based soup, my mum had tempura which is fried shrimp in batter. Very Japanese!

After we were full we headed over to a shrine. Everyone who visits Japan should visit a shrine, they are free and very beautiful places.

From Mothers day 2009


By now it was time to head back so we got the train and headed to Misawa, a town between Aomori and Hachinohe. I wanted to take my parents to the hotspring (onsen) there and Yuuri had arranged for us to see a show based on the Nebuta/Neputa festivals.

Hotsprings in Japan are usually natural and many people go to relax. I went in with my dad and Yuuri took my mum in. It's always intimidating because you have to get naked and take only a towel in. Once in the hotspring room you can take a shower and clean yourself before getting into the bath. We tried the cooler bath which was about 39C and then went in the sauna.

This hotspring also had an outdoor section which was really nice in contrast to the cold weather. It even started to rain a little bit and although you were hot all over you could feel little bits of cold droplets hitting you. It was nice and relaxing.

We went on to have a meal and watch a show about the festivals in Aomori including Nebuta and Neputa. The served Japanese steamed food.

From Mothers day 2009


This was a little confusing at first.

From Mothers day 2009


But we figured it out!

We could eat as the show went on. They showed music and singing from the festivals and even asked us to join in, which can only lead to bad things!!!




As you can see from the video, dad even took part, merrily jumping along to Aomori cities most famous festival.

From Mothers day 2009


That was before he pulled a tendon in his knee from jumping. For the remainder of the day he could hardly walk. We still watched the rest of the show and mum, Yuuri and I took part. This was mine and Yuuri's present to my parents for mothers day.

After that we caught a shamisen show downstairs. The shaimsen is a three stringed guitar that Japanese people play.

From Mothers day 2009


By the end we were all tired and my dad was in pain. We got home just before midnight and I think we all slept well!

Sunday, 5 April 2009

All singing and dancing - parents have a a bash at karaoke

One thing everyone always says when you go to Japan is try Karaoke. So they were really keen to see it but not so forthcoming to try it. So one night I asked them to come drinking with me and I took them to a nice bar.

The original plan was to go out with the Aeon staff but they had to cancel. Yoko had a cold, Megumi had hay fever and Mifuyu was still ill from being pregnant. So we went out with Yuuri and had a really nice time drinking. After I recommended karaoke and we got a taxi to place that had private karaoke booths (which are very comon in Japan).

You get a private room, some mics, a TV and a phone. You sing songs and you can order drinks over the phone. Usually you pay for the room for an hour or however long you want and drinks and food are included.

We settled down in a booth, dimmed the lights and got some drinks. I quickly set up a song and soon enough we were away. This has to be a rare sight for me so I made sure I got it on camera albeit I wish I hadn't got so much audio footage!!!



You can also check out some stills here.

Parents Karaoke

My parents and Yuuri

On April 4th 2009 it had been a year since I first landed on Japanese soil. A few weeks earlier my parents came to visit me in Aomori and I got to take them out for Mothers day and celebrate my 23rd birthday.

Due to my working schedule I could only get 3 days off, the rest of the time I spent with them was late at night. My fiancée Yuuri was able to take some time off to spend with them and was first to meet them at the train station and make sure they got to the hotel. I was able to take a break soon after their arrival and we all went to Coco Ichiban for some curry. It was good to see them, they both looked very well and pleased to be in Japan. This was their first meeting of Yuuri too and I was glad to see them getting on so well.

I was worried what they may have thought of Yuuri. I know she is a wonderful person but my parents might judge her worthiness to be with their son (as all parents natrually do). I also thought Yuuri might judge my parents attitude and make comparisons with mine. They are from very different backgrounds with very little experience of each others cultures. Even now, for me, it's very hard to deal with some Japanese customs and understand why they exist.

I knew my dad would try and be very charismatic and crack a few jokes and my mum would be very friendly and open but both wouldn't know how far they could go or how it would be perseved. Luckily Yuuri is a very friendly person who loves people and has an ability to warm the mood.

Here my dad took many pictures of his journey with Yuuri and the family.
Dads Pictures


After meeting my parents I showed them round my apartment and we had a few drinks together. I took them to Aspam and we could see from the top all over Aomori. They liked the town, it was much busier than they expected with a sea of cafes and restaurants as well as multiple department stores.

Later that night came the big even of my family meeting Yuuri's family. Yuuri's family don't speak much English and they are typical Japanese. I say typical Japanese because I think Japanese people who study English have an interest in western life style and have an idea of what to expect but most other Japanese people have no need to do this.

We sat at a long table, I was centre and to my left was my dad and to my right was my mum. Opposite me was Yuuri in her kimono, opposite my dad was Yuuri's dad and opposite my mum was Yuuri's mum, at the end sat Yuuri's younger sister. We ate Japanese food in a very traditonal Japanese restaurant in a private room. My dad was very nervous, carefully watching other people before he attempted to try something. My mum was a bit worried about the food, especially regarding the raw fish. Both of them talked through me when they wanted to ask something to Yuuri's family but they didnt know how to ask.

(This is what I call translating English to English which I seem to do a lot in Japan but more on that another time)

We talked a little, showed some photos and had a fun and enjoyable evening. We were all very grateful to Yuuri's parents for meeting with us and we exchanged some gifts. Then we took the photos.

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From Engaged


Yuuri's family

From Engaged


This is my favourite because you can see Yuuri's father put his arm round me which is not usual in a culture that don't touch. Yuuri's father is said to be very strict but to me he has been very welcoming and cooperative, for what must be very difficult for him.

From Engaged


Yuuri and my family

From Engaged


The whole family

From Engaged


Yuuri and me.

I'll leave the rest of what happened to my next post.


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